Every experience in our lives provides us with opportunities to grow as we learn. It’s a great statement, isn’t it? The part that is less easy to accept is that we learn our most valuable lessons from times of hardship and pain, when we were presented with a challenge and may have reacted to the challenge in a way that we later regret and continue to analyze and over-analyze in our minds for days, weeks, or even months. We may feel guilty that we may have hurt someone or someone may have done something to upset us, and by worrying about it and replaying the situation over and over again in our minds, we attempt to find an explanation to the situation. However, despite illusions of the contrary, the worry does not provide us with any solutions.
We may be upset with someone who has done something to hurt us. We may be disappointed with ourselves for having somehow hurt ourselves or someone else. We may even be upset with the Universe for having presented us with a challenging situation at a time when we already felt that we had enough to deal with. However, worrying about this only over-dramatizes the situation, forcing us to focus on the drama, rather than attempting to find a true solution and resolution. The solution, instead, allows us to create a mental record of lessons learned from the experience in order to move into the future. After all, we are not able to return to the past and correct our mistakes, but we can carry the lessons with us as we move ahead.
Forgive your past, the situations, the people, yourself. Do not hold any grudges against yourself or anyone else. Truly forgive and bless the past, knowing that it is safe. What we have is this very moment, and it seems wasteful to spend it worrying about something that has already happened. Right now, inhale deeply and, when exhaling, release any anger, pain, and disappointment about the past. Clear your mind of any worry you may feel. You may need to do this through a few breaths.
Next, inhale deeply once more, and visualize yourself, other people, and the situation from the past surrounded by brightly glowing, golden-white light. Allow yourself to feel that you and everyone else is perfect as we are right now, at this very moment, and that we need not judge ourselves and each other, as mistakes and challenges are inevitable in life and create who we will become tomorrow.
Please remember that, above all else, we need to treat ourselves and each other gently, with love. This starts with releasing any worries we may carry about what has occurred in the past. Remember that right now, at this very moment, we are perfect, regardless of what we consider positive and not-so-positive about ourselves and our personalities. We are also very safe and loved. Above all, love yourself. All else will follow. Learn from your past and forgive it, knowing that your future is safe.
Affirmation: I now release any pain, anger, sadness, and worry that I may feel toward other people, situations, and myself. I accept myself as I have been in the past, and as I am today. I love myself the way I am right now. I have learned valuable lessons from the past, and I carry these lessons with me today, knowing that they provide me with excellent resources for tomorrow. Tomorrow, like yesterday and today, is always surrounded with Love and provides me with endless opportunities to utilize the lessons that I have learned, as they are my gifts. I hold and cherish these gifts at this very moment.