This Week's Quote: “Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them” ~ Albert Einstein
“So, is he a good baby?” asked another mother, whose baby is a week older than my son, at a playgroup. I answered that my son indeed is a good baby, and she then proceeded to tell me about her son’s excellent temperament and how well he sleeps at night. There we were, two proud moms chatting cheerfully while our little guys played beside us, chewing away at colourful plastic objects in an attempt to massage their aching gums. We each may have had a challenging night due to fussiness brought on by teething, but that small inconvenience was long forgotten as we were busy adoring our little angels.
Every mother takes great pride in her child and the truly unconditional love of a mother is inspiring. While many of us would do anything for our children, however, we neglect to take good care of ourselves. Moreover, we may often criticize ourselves for the way we look and chastise ourselves for not being good enough. This applies not only to mothers but to all women and men. We all are capable of succumbing to the monster that is self-criticism.
An office worker may find himself, night after night, eating fast food for supper and staying at the office until well past 5 o’clock in order to finish a project to which he has been assigned. After coming home late and sleeping five hours at night, he rushes out the door in the morning without having taken the time to enjoy breakfast, just to repeat the cycle again the next day. We may find ourselves working diligently for others – be it for the boss, a partner, or one’s children – and although we may enjoy our work, we often neglect to take care of ourselves. We may, in fact, begin to feel that the work we do isn’t good enough and begin to push ourselves to the edge.
What if, for a moment, we stop our usual pace and imagine ourselves as children? We may not seem wonderful in the eyes of a stranger who witnesses our cranky meltdown, but to the child’s mother, who knows that her little girl is fussy because she missed her afternoon nap, her daughter is perfect and is simply having ‘one of those days.’ This week, treat yourself as a caring mother would treat her child. Take time to listen to your intuition about what you need, instead of what someone else wants of you, and follow your inner voice. Allow yourselves to make mistakes and acknowledge your positive and negative emotions, all the while celebrating you for who you are.
And remember: you are doing a wonderful job, so be sure to take excellent care of yourself. I firmly believe that when we take good care of ourselves, we empower ourselves to take better care of our loved ones and set an example for others to do the same.
Affirmation: “I love and accept myself unconditionally.”
Wishing you a peaceful week!